January is almost over, and if you find yourself wondering what happened to your New Years Resolutions or if you've ever set a goal and then lost motivation, this post is for you! It seems like a common reason for failing to meet goals is just simply losing interest.
Why set a goal you aren't interested in?
It seems like common sense, but in my experience people set goals that they think they "should set" or have heard others talk about setting. It could be a very worthwhile goal, but in reality it's something you don't really care about or don't understand the reason behind. For example, if you decide to set a goal to go jogging everyday, but you've never done it (and it's not realistic to do everyday) or if you set a goal to "drink more water", but don't really like water or feel like this is a valuable goal to you-- then you simply will not succeed.
How to set goals you will actually meet: part one
This is part one of a goal setting series, and I want to first focus on the long term vision. One thing I do with my clients when I first start working with them is come up with a wellness vision. This process basically helps you to determine what you want your health and wellbeing to look like one year from now. This is essential for considering WHY you want to make a change, and also important for keeping you motivated. After setting the wellness vision and considering what you want life to be a year from now, we can work backward into shorter term goals.
The Wellness Vision
In order to come up with your long term vision for your life, I want you to think about life a year from now. Consider where you will spend your time, and what you will be spending your time doing. Now think of your health. How do you feel? How do you look? Really dig deep. What do you love about your like? What will it take to get there? Take 5-10 minutes to close your eyes and let your mind run with how you want your life to look. Be sure to consider all aspects of your wellbeing- stress, sleep, nutrition, physical activity, relationships, etc. You won't necessarily be setting goals in all of these areas, but it's a good way to think about which areas you want to improve upon.
Why does the vision matter?
Having a long-term picture for your life will help you get into the nitty-gritty of what your goals are and WHY they are. For example, if you say you want to lose 10 pounds or workout every day, but don't really know what your ultimate goal is- you probably won't stick with it. But if you know you want to have more energy or feel agile and energetic when playing with your kids, you know WHY this goal is important to.
If you're ready to start the process of setting goals that stick...download my goal setting mini workbook. It will ask a long list of questions you can consider and get you on track to set more specific short term goals. I encourage you to put down your electronics and print out the worksheet and hand write your goals. There is something to putting pen to paper that really gets you thinking, and of course it's beneficial to be completely free of any distractions.